Thursday, March 28, 2013
James Malinchak's Stop Overwhelming Yourself Tips
By Rubin Price
Stop overwhelming yourself. It sounds so easy, doesn't it? Just like that. Stop doing it. For most people, it's not that simple at all. Becoming overwhelmed in life does not just happen, it builds up over time. Realistically, you do not like saying "no" to people. Despite how overloaded you might already be, you agree to helping out. Once you have said yes once, you feel you can't say no the next time you're asked.
To stop overwhelming yourself, you have to learn to say "no". Again, it sounds easy in theory, but the practice means that you'll say no to somebody coming to you for help. That's going to make you feel ashamed about yourself. That's the crux of the problem, accepting it is ok not to help someone.
There are only 24 hours in everyone's day. No matter how much you need to accomplish, or how many people you need to take care of, you still only get the same time allowance as everyone else. The first thing you need to do is to think about what responsibilities you have. These are the people and tasks that you must take care of routinely. Do not forget to put yourself on that list! You can't take of others if you're not taking care of yourself!
Make a list of your priorities. How much of those are repetitive? People you care for and tasks you undertake on a regular basis? How much time does this all take up? How many other things do you add into the day - for instance errands, exercise, sleep? Think about that 24 hour day and genuinely see how much time, or more likely, how little time remains. You're entitled to time to yourself. You need time for yourself. It's ok to say that you're not in a position to help somebody this time. You're not saying that you won't help them. Just that it's not possible right now.
Anyway, you don't have to justify why you don't have time to do the fundraiser, or whatever - not to the person asking, or even to yourself. If you had time, this wouldn't be an issue and you would agree to help. By hesitating, it means that you should stop overwhelming yourself. You instinctively know that you're already overstretched. Say you're not able to help this time, but perhaps you may be able to at some future date.
Then remind yourself that this is ok. It will pull on your conscience at first, but with practice it will get easier. Eventually, you will start to feel a lot less overwhelmed with life. Remember, you have a life and chances are you are living it to gain your own freedom to pick and choose what you enjoy! Do not give up your freedom to fulfill others dreams and expectations unless their dreams and expectations fulfill you, too.
To stop overwhelming yourself, you have to learn to say "no". Again, it sounds easy in theory, but the practice means that you'll say no to somebody coming to you for help. That's going to make you feel ashamed about yourself. That's the crux of the problem, accepting it is ok not to help someone.
There are only 24 hours in everyone's day. No matter how much you need to accomplish, or how many people you need to take care of, you still only get the same time allowance as everyone else. The first thing you need to do is to think about what responsibilities you have. These are the people and tasks that you must take care of routinely. Do not forget to put yourself on that list! You can't take of others if you're not taking care of yourself!
Make a list of your priorities. How much of those are repetitive? People you care for and tasks you undertake on a regular basis? How much time does this all take up? How many other things do you add into the day - for instance errands, exercise, sleep? Think about that 24 hour day and genuinely see how much time, or more likely, how little time remains. You're entitled to time to yourself. You need time for yourself. It's ok to say that you're not in a position to help somebody this time. You're not saying that you won't help them. Just that it's not possible right now.
Anyway, you don't have to justify why you don't have time to do the fundraiser, or whatever - not to the person asking, or even to yourself. If you had time, this wouldn't be an issue and you would agree to help. By hesitating, it means that you should stop overwhelming yourself. You instinctively know that you're already overstretched. Say you're not able to help this time, but perhaps you may be able to at some future date.
Then remind yourself that this is ok. It will pull on your conscience at first, but with practice it will get easier. Eventually, you will start to feel a lot less overwhelmed with life. Remember, you have a life and chances are you are living it to gain your own freedom to pick and choose what you enjoy! Do not give up your freedom to fulfill others dreams and expectations unless their dreams and expectations fulfill you, too.
About the Author:
James Malinchak, Showcased on ABC's Hit TV Program Secret Millionaire, is regarded as by a lot of professionals as the World's #1 Big Money Speaker Coach and Trainer. For Totally free Video Trainings on how to get money to speak and how to turn into a motivational speaker, try go!! and learn more.
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